Crush- An altogether unprofitable venture

Being in ones teenage years one often hears about the utility of this social phenomenon- namely The Crush. It is basically a situation wherein you tend to get infatuated with a member of the opposite sex (most commonly), due to some physical feature, which attracts you or some innate quality of his, which of course, does not exist. And before I go ahead to present my personal views on the subject, I shall tell you some of the most common statements delivered in favor of it. Firstly, it is considered a healthy phenomenon. In our largely heterosexual world, homosexuality is almost a taboo. So when you declare that you have a crush on a guy ….you are establishing the fact that members of your own sex being very comfortable with you. (I remember being snubbed by one of my friends because she thought I was homosexual… I never had a crush. She actually cried with glee when I told her that I ‘like a guy’). Well, secondly it is proclaimed to be good way of killing time …ughgh. …Can’t people engage their brains in some intellectual stuff instead (uh …that goes for me too)?? My sister thinks that life without crushes is boring ….hmm…gimme a break!! And lastly, and most importantly, the crush is something that can later lead to a relationship …as in …you know what I mean….

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Now ladies and gentlemen, I would like to prove all your notions about this apparently harmless venture wrong. And this I shall do by convincing you that this phenomenon never leads to the very ends you seek from engaging in it.

Crush my friends, is sheer waste of time. Anyone who has a crush inevitably wastes his or her time thinking and talking about that particular person. This time, as I pointed out earlier, could be utilized in activities that hold much greater consequence. I would also like to point out that it robs one of all those thoughts involved in planning for the future, preparing your Tuts and dabbling in extra-curricular activities.

The above-mentioned may seem very trivial reasons to some and I shall point out a few more-pertinent ones. A crush is something that endangers its very own purpose… that is – to get the one you like …to like you back. A genuine crush (in my case at least) makes one so infatuated with the other person that one stops being normal in front of that person. So basically you come across as a dumb flustering idiot in front of the guy or girl. You stop thinking rationally due to your emotional upheavals and start acting like a complete nut-case in front of that person ….so much so that instead of that person liking you ….you almost become obnoxious to him/her. He/she starts assessing you from head to toe …and as much as I know ….you certainly don’t fit into his expectations and desires….no matter how good you are. Oh yes, one more interesting aspect which overcomes many people in such situations is that they actually start changing themselves regarding trivial little things for that very person… who doesn’t care a damn. And strangely enough, they don’t seem to change those very things that their ‘crush’ finds obnoxious. And finally it turns into a cycle of unpleasant actions and reactions wherein everyone is eventually dissatisfied. And do you really expect that person to go around with you now?? I’m sure you yourself are quite pissed with him.

So ladies and gentlemen, we can clearly see that involving oneself in such activities as crushes which may on the surface seem to be trivial and harmless fun can lead to dire emotional consequences. And here I rest my case. …And establish very strongly- The Crush is the most unprofitable venture you can venture into.

NOTE: All above observations are first hand. No professional research has been carried out in the above subject by the author. The author has very innocent intentions and wants to save her friends from all the above mentioned. She is certainly NOT interested in all those cute guys which her friends will express disinterest in.